Thank you very much for this essay. In just reading it, a part of me feels closer to healing the burden of shame I tend to bury myself in, time and again. Taking responsibility and showing up seems like a straightforward solution and yet it's so difficult sometimes. Thank you for the encouragement to persist in taking responsibility.
I’ve been the one who talks to my hairdresser about it. I even felt shame when I talked to you through emails and I said something like I couldn’t understand the essays. I’ve love that you give your own words of wisdom along with hardcore scientific research. It’s such a balance that is so needed and exactly why I use this app.
So, ironically, the card I drew from my Messages deck this morning was, "Forgive yourself." And I have on my desk a card titled, "Forgiveness," which reads: " I forgive myself unconditionally for any and all shortcomings, imperfections, foibles, fumbles, flops, or "failures" of my present, past, and (chances are, tbh) future. I might not be perfect, but I am a perfect being, and I will continue to be perfectly imperfect with all the joy and acceptance I can possibly muster. Giddy up!"
I began to read the card to myself, and shame welled up from deep inside. So I spent several minutes talking to my younger selves, telling them that it's human to make mistakes, that I understand why they did many of the things they did, and that I know they never once intended to hurt anyone else. And I told them that I do forgive them unconditionally, because I love them. Those were some tearful, healing minutes.
I was wondering what you can do to help another person choose guilt and how to avoid feeding the shame side of things. I’m thinking empathizing with the person and trying to understand how they see things might help, but I’m not sure how to put that into practice.
Thank you very much for this essay. In just reading it, a part of me feels closer to healing the burden of shame I tend to bury myself in, time and again. Taking responsibility and showing up seems like a straightforward solution and yet it's so difficult sometimes. Thank you for the encouragement to persist in taking responsibility.
I’ve been the one who talks to my hairdresser about it. I even felt shame when I talked to you through emails and I said something like I couldn’t understand the essays. I’ve love that you give your own words of wisdom along with hardcore scientific research. It’s such a balance that is so needed and exactly why I use this app.
Hope to talk again soon.
~ S. Wood
So, ironically, the card I drew from my Messages deck this morning was, "Forgive yourself." And I have on my desk a card titled, "Forgiveness," which reads: " I forgive myself unconditionally for any and all shortcomings, imperfections, foibles, fumbles, flops, or "failures" of my present, past, and (chances are, tbh) future. I might not be perfect, but I am a perfect being, and I will continue to be perfectly imperfect with all the joy and acceptance I can possibly muster. Giddy up!"
I began to read the card to myself, and shame welled up from deep inside. So I spent several minutes talking to my younger selves, telling them that it's human to make mistakes, that I understand why they did many of the things they did, and that I know they never once intended to hurt anyone else. And I told them that I do forgive them unconditionally, because I love them. Those were some tearful, healing minutes.
I was wondering what you can do to help another person choose guilt and how to avoid feeding the shame side of things. I’m thinking empathizing with the person and trying to understand how they see things might help, but I’m not sure how to put that into practice.