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Marina's avatar

I find that I swing wildly between Active Inflexible and Passive Inflexible depending on whether it’s something I perceive to be in my sphere of influence or if it’s something that involves other people. When I feel like I might have some control over the situation I take the active approach, but when it involves others, I’m more passive. I think it’s a lot to do with being a people pleaser, and leads me to take way too much on to actively “solve everything myself” or resign myself passively to how it is because I don’t want to bother other people…definitely working on changing the mindsets. It’s exhausting and often leads to a feeling of helplessness in both directions by constantly trying to over-correct.

Onwards to flexibility!

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Alicia's avatar

I always need a plan, and my spouse's family drives me crazy by always doing last minute plans. They'll call everyone up out of nowhere for a big family dinner or outing. It's been an effort to let go of my indignance and just go if I don't have other plans.

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